Category Archives: Sex

The Fluffy Guide to Dating Profile Writing

Something I’ve noticed over the course of the last few years with profiles on dating and hook-up sites is that people are really horrible at creating a profile that sings. Part of this is because there’s no one that teaches … Continue reading

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Not all who claim manhood are men. Not all who are men claim manhood.

I recently had the absolutely wonderful fortune to spend five days in the woods of a very tall place in Pennsylvania, surrounded by queer men who are pagan (and some who don’t identify that way) in the pursuit of spiritual … Continue reading

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Internalized Heterosexism Kills the Queer Male

Dear gay men who get offended at even the idea of other gay men who bareback &/or do drugs: love yourself & reject your heterosexism, please — Most Mild Misandrist (@FluffyEclectic) May 29, 2015 So started an open letter on … Continue reading

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“Zoning Laws” – Or, “Putting People into Boxes” Or, “Friend-zoning”

NOTE: I’ve embedded here an audio file of the following essay; please feel free to listen to it while reading. If you cannot view the embedded player, you can download the file from here. It is about 19 minutes long. Please … Continue reading

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Why I Don’t Date “Nice Guys” (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)

What does nice mean? Lately I’ve been focusing on being concise with language. If you follow me on twitter you’ll already know that I’ve been talking about being more direct and clear about what we mean when we communicate. Indeed I’ve … Continue reading

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Singular They: On Judaism, Tumtum, and Inhabiting a Genderqueer Identity

Those that know me in almost any capacity nowadays know and understand that my gender is a confusing topic full of twists and turns and quite a lot of anger at cisgender people. I was raised male, using he, him, his pronouns, … Continue reading

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Buy One Get One; a collusion of the present with the past

I’m going to get a little personal here. More so than I had been before. This post is about love and what I’m looking for. This is actually a combination of two journal entries that I wanted to share. The … Continue reading

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Consent Culture is Hard, Yo.

One of the core tenants of feminism, the insidious pervasiveness of rape culture, is countered by the almost utopian ideal of consent culture. To counter the sense of entitlement toward womens’ bodies embodied with rape culture, the idea is to promote … Continue reading

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