Category Archives: Orientation

These essays discuss issues related to sexual and/or romantic orientation.

A Holiday Message to my Trans Siblings and Queer Cousins

A message for my transgender siblings and queer cousins on the holidays Continue reading

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The Fluffy Guide to Dating Profile Writing

Something I’ve noticed over the course of the last few years with profiles on dating and hook-up sites is that people are really horrible at creating a profile that sings. Part of this is because there’s no one that teaches … Continue reading

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Not all who claim manhood are men. Not all who are men claim manhood.

I recently had the absolutely wonderful fortune to spend five days in the woods of a very tall place in Pennsylvania, surrounded by queer men who are pagan (and some who don’t identify that way) in the pursuit of spiritual … Continue reading

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Internalized Heterosexism Kills the Queer Male

Dear gay men who get offended at even the idea of other gay men who bareback &/or do drugs: love yourself & reject your heterosexism, please — Most Mild Misandrist (@FluffyEclectic) May 29, 2015 So started an open letter on … Continue reading

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Pitch Perfect Queerbaiting

Pitch Perfect 2 was one of my most anticipated movies of the year. The moment I found out about its creation I knew I would see it on opening day. Imagine my surprise when I got a chance to see … Continue reading

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“Zoning Laws” – Or, “Putting People into Boxes” Or, “Friend-zoning”

NOTE: I’ve embedded here an audio file of the following essay; please feel free to listen to it while reading. If you cannot view the embedded player, you can download the file from here. It is about 19 minutes long. Please … Continue reading

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Singular They: On Judaism, Tumtum, and Inhabiting a Genderqueer Identity

Those that know me in almost any capacity nowadays know and understand that my gender is a confusing topic full of twists and turns and quite a lot of anger at cisgender people. I was raised male, using he, him, his pronouns, … Continue reading

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Days Seven and Eight

  By far, dear readers, these were the days that I both anticipated and dreaded the most. That I knew I would get the most out of, and have the hardest time. These were the days of Tzfat, Tzippori, the … Continue reading

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The Myriad Duties of an Ally

Note: If you’d like to skip down to the listed duties of an ally, please do; I’ll make a header that makes it easy to find. Everything before it is an explanation of how I came to feel like a(nother) … Continue reading

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The Introvert Tango; A dance my brain does

Growing up I was often told, explicitly and otherwise, that I wanted to have many friends, that I wanted to go to parties with many people and dance and drink and kiss strangers in the the throbbing bass and strobe … Continue reading

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