Category Archives: Gender

These essays specifically discuss issues related to gender identity, expression, and assignment.

A Holiday Message to my Trans Siblings and Queer Cousins

A message for my transgender siblings and queer cousins on the holidays Continue reading

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Not all who claim manhood are men. Not all who are men claim manhood.

I recently had the absolutely wonderful fortune to spend five days in the woods of a very tall place in Pennsylvania, surrounded by queer men who are pagan (and some who don’t identify that way) in the pursuit of spiritual … Continue reading

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Internalized Heterosexism Kills the Queer Male

Dear gay men who get offended at even the idea of other gay men who bareback &/or do drugs: love yourself & reject your heterosexism, please — Most Mild Misandrist (@FluffyEclectic) May 29, 2015 So started an open letter on … Continue reading

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“Zoning Laws” – Or, “Putting People into Boxes” Or, “Friend-zoning”

NOTE: I’ve embedded here an audio file of the following essay; please feel free to listen to it while reading. If you cannot view the embedded player, you can download the file from here. It is about 19 minutes long. Please … Continue reading

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Singular They: On Judaism, Tumtum, and Inhabiting a Genderqueer Identity

Those that know me in almost any capacity nowadays know and understand that my gender is a confusing topic full of twists and turns and quite a lot of anger at cisgender people. I was raised male, using he, him, his pronouns, … Continue reading

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I Wore a Kippah

I played with the clips on the inside of my kippah that I bought in Israel, studying the knitted pattern in swirling blues, white and black. I’d felt almost a calling. A whisper at the back of my head. “Where … Continue reading

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The Myriad Duties of an Ally

Note: If you’d like to skip down to the listed duties of an ally, please do; I’ll make a header that makes it easy to find. Everything before it is an explanation of how I came to feel like a(nother) … Continue reading

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National Coming Out Day

Today (October 11th 2012) was the annual National Coming Out Day. I have mixed feelings about this day. About this holiday. About this celebration of a narrative that leaves so many in the dark, feeling alone and abandoned by those … Continue reading

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