Category Archives: Essay

These are (generally non-fiction) essays, intended to be engaged with and explored by readers.

A Holiday Message to my Trans Siblings and Queer Cousins

A message for my transgender siblings and queer cousins on the holidays Continue reading

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Bipolar Disorder is not a Pendulum

I did something herculean today: I did all of the work I needed to do and then some. To most people this is nothing. They don’t feel accomplished by doing the bare minimum. For someone with bipolar disorder, the bare … Continue reading

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Feeling Single Sucks

Maybe it’s selection bias, but I’ve read so many articles on how difficult being single is that it almost feels like a fun cliche. I can feel the editor salivating at the prospect of all of the hits from single … Continue reading

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Is This Thing On?

Friday I went to see the new Ghostbusters flick. While it’s absolutely fantastic (seriously, I loved it; if this had been the original I would have been obsessed with the movies as a kid instead of thinking they were boring), … Continue reading

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Lady Dynamite, Laughing, and Being Bipolar

I have loved Maria Bamford since I was a kid and I first saw her standup on comedy central. The zaniness, the characters, the self-deprecation all rang true for me. That said, I’ve never been the type to follow through with a … Continue reading

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The Fluffy Guide to Dating Profile Writing

Something I’ve noticed over the course of the last few years with profiles on dating and hook-up sites is that people are really horrible at creating a profile that sings. Part of this is because there’s no one that teaches … Continue reading

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Glitter as Spiritual Awakening

Glitter. To some the scourge of a well-stocked arts and crafts armory. To others a delightful toy. To still others a precision art tool. And to some? A spiritual gateway. The soul of glitter is one that sings to me. … Continue reading

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Not all who claim manhood are men. Not all who are men claim manhood.

I recently had the absolutely wonderful fortune to spend five days in the woods of a very tall place in Pennsylvania, surrounded by queer men who are pagan (and some who don’t identify that way) in the pursuit of spiritual … Continue reading

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Internalized Heterosexism Kills the Queer Male

Dear gay men who get offended at even the idea of other gay men who bareback &/or do drugs: love yourself & reject your heterosexism, please — Most Mild Misandrist (@FluffyEclectic) May 29, 2015 So started an open letter on … Continue reading

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Pitch Perfect Queerbaiting

Pitch Perfect 2 was one of my most anticipated movies of the year. The moment I found out about its creation I knew I would see it on opening day. Imagine my surprise when I got a chance to see … Continue reading

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